So you’re coming to Bangkok and looking for a sexy girl to keep you company for a few hours or days but don’t want to go looking for the go go bars or hang out in sleazy pits. In fact if you are new in Bangkok and want to cut straight to the chase you’re spoilt for choice with dozens of Bangkok escorts agencies to keep things simple, convenient and discreet. But they do tend to be much more expensive than the bars of Nana or Soi Cowboy, however the standard of girls is generally higher.
Bangkok escorts are now very easy to find and arrange thanks to the internet, where you will find plenty of well maintain sites that list lots of beauties to choose from with multiple pictures and even some ‘chit chat’ from the girl, so you have an idea of what she likes to do and where she will draw the line. Many of these girls are also only part-timers, often promoting themselves as ‘students’ or ‘office workers’ and they do tend to be better educated or at least more up-market than the go go girls. The range stretches from models at 10,000 baht a night to simple working girls who might be a little chubby but will come to your hotel for 1000 baht.
Bangkok escorts can be arranged by phone, in the past they would send a motorcyclist around with a portfolio but it’s now much easier to use the internet. You can of course just ask for a couple of girls and once they have shown up you can take your pick, pay the discarded ones a little bonus for their time (250 baht) and send them home, but this isn’t very fair. Escorts agencies also have the advantage of supplying non-Asian women who can’t get away with working in Thai go go bars.
Several Bangkok escorts’ agencies that advertise themselves as being upscale offer the company of their escorts for a flat fee that covers only the platonic company of an escort, with anything additional being left to the discretion of the escort and client. Sometimes those seeking out the services of an escort agency are looking for just that, an escort, whether for a social engagement where one does not want to go alone, or simply to have along as a knowledgeable companion when touring Bangkok. Many of these girls offer their services as tour guide companions but the fee they charge for this might be quite high. Even if you aren’t having sex with them you are denying them work opportunities elsewhere.
Services offered by Bangkok escorts and their agencies are limited only by the imagination with many agencies willing to cater to even the most seemingly obscure taste. Bangkok escorts can also be arranged for those who want to have any type of massage, from traditional to oil and beyond. Typically Bangkok escorts will charge about 3000 baht for an evening and more if you wish them to remain over night, similar girls out of a bar will cost 1500 baht.
Bangkok escorts work on both an in-call and out-call basis. This means that several are willing to entertain callers in their apartments and, the majority, are usually only a phone call away from being able to meet you at your hotel. If you make an advanced booking prior to landing in Bangkok you can have a Bangkok escort meet you at the airport.
Aside from ads in newspapers, the Internet is the best source for finding escort agencies. Some hotel concierges can also arrange this but enquire discreetly, some hotels really frown on this. It’s worth shopping around as prices can vary wildly. You don’t get the luxury of seeing the girl in the flesh before committing to have her come to your place, or spending time chatting her up to see if she’s going to be wild or mild in bed, but they are generally are a better class of girl and it cuts out the fuss and hassle of trawling the bars.
Bangkok Bar Girls
Welcome to the ‘city of Angels’ Bangkok is certainly one of the naughtiest cities in the world, with thousands of Bangkok bar girls who work in the city’s various ‘red light’ districts. Yes, it is an unquestionable fact that many men pencil in a stop to Bangkok on their calendars specifically so that they can have some fun and you needn’t look to far or empty your wallet too much to enjoy a steamy night out (or in). Bangkok bar girls are famous for their sex appeal, friendly and fun nature and easy approach. Unlike other red light districts in the world, Bangkok is very relaxed and it’s bar girls very welcoming. This is an introductory guide, but if you’re familiar with Bangkok bar girls then maybe you’ll be more interested in our pages on where to find go go bars and bangkok escorts.
Bangkok bar girls — who are they?
The overwhelming majority of Bangkok bar girls come from Isaan, the Northeast region of Thailand, they come from poor rural areas where job opportunities are low paying, they move to Bangkok and join the bar girls scene as a way of earning more money. With their dark complexion, sultry looks and sexy bodies they are almost certainly a hit with the foreign men and whole generations of girls from Isaan and other working class areas have been following a well worn path here for financial improvement.
The bar scene holds an added appeal for these women as most do not have an education beyond the sixth grade level. Some of these bar girls also have fatherless children and extended families to support – others might have a layabout boyfriend at home who they support financially.
Some do this out of a feeling that they are saving these girls from a hard life, regardless bar girls are often looking for a foreign boyfriend, so the two ends meet. Even as a visitor, don’t ever imagine that your girl thinks of you as special. She might be attracted to you and find you far more fun and generous and caring than the rest, but the moment you leave she’ll be back in the bar working, even if you send her money and she promises to spend her time at language school.
The opportunities for them are just too good to pass up, besides the bar scene is often the only place in Bangkok that they feel comfortable. Of course there exceptions to the rule and you may meet a sweet girl who has just started or really doesn’t want to be there, and was just waiting for someone, anyone, to come along and take her out of there. But these are few and as a newcomer you are unlikely to see through any deception.
While the vast majority of Bangkok bar girls fall under this category, the bar girl scene is so vast and densely populated that it includes women from all parts of the country as women of different educational and economic backgrounds. In fact as Bangkok becomes increasingly modernised, it is far from unheard of for female university students to work in the bar scene in order to have the funds required to purchase the latest in mobile phone technology and brand name clothes.
Sit down at a bar and begin chatting up Bangkok bar girls and soon the request will come for you to buy a drink. This is the infamous Bangkok bar girl ‘lady drink’, and it is one way to pay the rent if you insist on just chatting without taking one of them home. Lady drinks are usually a set price (more expensive than your drink but not unreasonable – about 120 baht) and they are often watered down to prevent the girls getting too drunk. Remember, Thais have a lower alcohol tolerance, but if you want to get her ‘softened up’ then order her a beer. The girls are pretty forward and suggestive from the start and you may end up being immediately talked into buying a drink right away for a girl other than the one you might have your eye on. For sure, they wont allow you to sit more than 10 minutes without buying a drink. Buy one for yourself and not a girl then they will think you are ‘kii nieow’ (stingy) and leave you alone.
Now for the bar fines! When you’ve decided to take a girl out the bar with you, you will have to pay a ‘bar fine’. These vary from 200 to 500 baht and can be quite a rip off. It’s useful to know what the bar fine is before you start spending money on drinks. The more commercial and obvious the place the more the bar fine. Up market places tend to charge more. This fee is separate from anything you later agree with girl, though you can usually bash her down in price if the bar fine has been excessive (she gets some of it anyway). The ‘fine’ is added to your bill and you usually pay the girl. All of this is controlled by the ‘mamasan’ – who is vaguely equivalent to a pimp but serves a bigger function of taking care of the girls (often they all live together on the premises), acting like a bigger sister and wearing the big boots in the place. Mamasans are often ladyboys or retired bar girls.
The bar girl scene
The bangkok bar girl scene is nothing more than a huge financial osmosis which draws vast amounts of money out of the wallets of us flush farangs and into the needy pockets of thousands of sweet, deceptive players who can often be ruthless and without conscience. If you want to play, then keep this in the back of your mind the whole time.
It’s not surprising that the bar girl scene in Bangkok is popular among expats and tourists with its ready supply of beautiful women Thai girls. The scene is loose, unrestricted and at times a wild party atmosphere. Most bangkok bar girls speak enough English to get by.
Of course, many ‘farang’ men living in Bangkok have a great time with this and some are even stupid enough to fall in love with a bar girl. Some do this out of a feeling that they are saving these girls from a hard life, regardless bar girls are often looking for a foreign boyfriend, so the two ends meet. Even as a visitor, don’t ever imagine that your girl thinks of you as special. She might be attracted to you and find you far more fun and generous and caring than the rest, but the moment you leave she’ll be back in the bar working, even if you send her money and she promises to spend her time at language school. The opportunities for them are just too good to pass up, besides the bar scene is often the only place in Bangkok that they feel comfortable.
Of course there exceptions to the rule and you may meet a sweet girl who has just started or really doesn’t want to be there, and was just waiting for someone, anyone, to come along and take her out of there. But these are few and as a newcomer you are unlikely to see through any deception.
While there have been cases of foreigners wedding a bar girl and the relationship actually being a success over the long-term, this is generally not the case. Most relationships between foreigners and bar girls fail for a number of reasons, not the least of which is the massive gulf in terms of culture, economic status, and earning power.
Choosing to enter the bar girl scene for a Thai women represents a choice that clearly breaks from what is accepted in Thai society and as such, women in this scene, in some but not all cases, may not hold too high a standard in terms of honesty etc. Add to this the fact that the girls’ friends are likely all in the bar circle, and the odds thin out even further when it comes to dating success with a bar girl. Enjoy their company, have a laugh, pay them money, but in most cases it is inadvisable to start a relationship with Bangkok bar girls. As the popular saying goes; ‘you can take the girl out of the bar but you can never take the bar out of the girl’.